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Prayer, the Escape Ladder on the Wall of Worry – July 18, 2021

July 18, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

I believe in a perfect, always listening and ever-present God. Yet, God created us as His perfectly imperfect children. One of my imperfections and probably yours too is worry.

What good does worry accomplish for me? For you? What are the benefits of worrying?

The most annoying aspect of worry is that it happens at the most inappropriate and inconvenient times. Like when I am trying to enjoy family time, or watching a movie or when I should be enjoying the moment. When I should be fully present in the now; but I am hijacked to a far off location. A place where my mind thinks way too much but nothing is ever accomplished. The rocking chair rocks faster and faster but goes nowhere.

Even worse is when that worry begins at night. I just lie in bed. Then, a little worry begins and it grows and grows until I am consumed by it. Sleep is no longer possible. The frustrating thing about worry is that in the middle of the night I am completely unable to do anything about what bothers me. I am robbed of sleep. That allows worry to take greater hold of me the next time.

Attorneys like me have a common suffering. It is the night before a trial. Even if one is fully prepared, as sleep should begin the questions pop up. “Am I really ready? What will the judge think of my advocacy? Will the jury care about me, my client or the case? Will my client appreciate how I try the case? Even though I am a collaborative divorce attorney I worry about those I serve and what personal struggles there are navigating. The crescendo of anxiety causes me to climb an insurmountable wall of worry. Boy do I need an escape ladder to get me safely down from that wall.

That escape ladder for me is prayer. Relief from prayer is free and immediate. We may not be able to do something about what we are obsessing on at the time. But God is always listening and God can handle what we cannot. In the light of day. In the darkness at 2:00 am. That escape ladder is not acquired on QVC. It is our lifeline given to us from God. That is why I pray to God every time every day when worry gets the best of me. Prayer is always the answer for me to find the still, quiet place to be with God and others.

What if each of us could just surrender our worries to God? What if our first action to all our worries was to pray to God? What if our worries were surrendered to and borne by God alone? What would that escape ladder mean to you? To me? The result would be that you and I would surely receive the peace from God that passeth all understanding.

God has spoken to us in Scripture about finding God’s peace.

Philippians 4:6-7, 9

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus…….. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Let us pray together.

Dear God, in prayer please help us to surrender to You all our worries and the anxieties which cause us distress.

God, please empower us to let go of the things we worry about and let us trust in You to bear what we cannot.

God, thanks for hearing our prayers and granting us thereby Your heavenly peace on Earth so that we can be fully present in our service to You and to our brothers and sisters in Your name, now and forever. Amen

Prayer for Gratitude to Overcome Grief – July 11, 2021

July 15, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

Whether you are young, middle-aged, or old we all experience grief. We lose something or someone we love. Our loved ones depart. We bury our beloved pets. We are left behind. In that vacuum of loss, we suffer. We grieve. We cry.

Later in life, we see a life-long dream will not happen no matter how hard we work. The once possible becomes impossible. Financial security will not be attained. Physical health will not be restored. Some items on our bucket lists will die before we do.

Expectations of children being financially independent, or taking trips to Europe and far-off lands, or that career goal or big investment paying off become false hopes. That retirement with your spouse which you’ve looked forward to for many years ends with a divorce petition being served on you.

For me when I grieve for what I lost with polio and paralysis, I am sad that I cannot and will not ever run, jump, play golf, dance with Dorothy, play tennis, ride a bike or take a hike. Even now I cannot do what I did in my 30’s like walk a half-mile or ride a stationary bike for three miles.

Yet, what I can do to overcome my grief is to reflect and be grateful for cherished memories and times I have spent with those I love. For example, this iconic photograph of Dorothy and me in 1978 as we stood together smiling on Nob Hill with the San Francisco Bay behind us. On that magical day, I was able to walk the streets of San Francisco and Ghirardelli Square without the assistance of a motorized wheelchair.

At that moment all I needed was my walking cane, Dorothy, and her love for me.

Six years later I was one of 100 000 polio survivors who suffered post-polio syndrome (PPS). With it came the sudden and unexpected weakness in the muscles I had regained after years of rehabilitation from polio. After feeling twice cursed and in deep emotional pain, my thoughts turned to gratitude. Gratefulness for being able to function so well for nearly four decades after polio. That gratitude overcame and overshadowed my grief. With gratefulness, I remained strong, courageous, positive, and happy.

Later, that gratitude enabled me to spend nights in an Iron Lung for five years with PPS and still ably serve as President of both the Gulf Coast Family Law Specialists and the Texas Association of Civil Trial and Appellate Specialists-Houston Chapter. At that time, because of that strength and support from God, I never felt the need to share this journey with my colleagues or the judges I appeared before in court for hearings and trials. All because of gratitude, the Glory, and the Grace of God.

God has spoken to us in Scripture about gratefulness.

Psalm 103:2-5
Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagles.

Let us pray together.

Dear God, in prayer, may we be forever grateful for the blessings You have bestowed on us.

God, please open our eyes and hearts to see the experiences and the people who reside in the deep well of gratitude within us.

God, in time, may our gratitude overcome and overshadow our grieving for what once was and the hardships of life and love.

Last, may our gratitude be shared with You in prayers of thanksgiving; for with You in Heaven, ultimately, all our dreams will be fulfilled. Amen.

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur, and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the BendingAngel.com website.

Prayer to Weed Our Garden in Relationships with Others – July 4, 2021

July 3, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

I watch garden shows on HGTV and YouTube channels featuring programs on decluttering. I am often struck by how much of what is learned there applies to my life and yours too.

If one does not remove from home the clutter, what is important and needed cannot be found or seen. If one does not put away in an organized way the important papers, so much time and frustration is spent on locating them. I know at times I have had to go to the store and buy an item I knew I had but could not find.

What a waste of time and financial resources. Do you remember how you felt when you stayed in a nicely decorated and uncluttered hotel room?

If one does not weed the garden, the weeds take over. They hide or kill the plants that produce the herbs we eat and the fruit and vegetables we consume at the table. The beauty in the garden is lost, stifled, or dies.

Have you ever thought about how the lessons in weeding the garden or decluttering a home apply to your relationships with others? Your spouse? Your kids? Your parents and siblings? Your neighbors?

Dub Brooks, a dear friend, and minister said once, “God gives us a garden. But, we have to weed it ourselves.”

God wants us to declutter our relationships. To weed our relationships of the weeds. Like ongoing resentments. Like not forgiving others for past transgressions. Like bringing up over and over again old wounds to blame those we love. Forgiveness is like a pre-emergent non-toxic herbicide to end once and for all such things.

Weeding our relationships of other things too is important. Like not listening to others with our hearts. Like not overlaying one’s will over the wife or husband we love. Giving up on never losing an argument. Not being judgmental.

When we lead with love the weeds never have a chance to grow in the garden of our love for one another.

I recall a man who hired me to represent him in a collaborative divorce. His wife left him for another man. He said he was caught totally by surprise. On questioning, I learned quickly that he had stopped leading with love in his relationship with his wife of 25 years. I asked, “When have you last told your wife you loved her?” His reply, “I don’t need to do that. She knows I love her.” “When you have given her flowers,” I asked. His reply, “When her mother died ten years ago.” “When have you taken her on a vacation alone?” He said, “Never. We’ve only gone with the kids.” “When have you been intimate with each other in bed?” He replied, “Not in years.”

I am not saying this man was solely the cause of the beauty, the joy, and wonder of the marriage being lost. But, it was clear to me he had not decluttered, weeded, or cultivated the blessing of his marriage. He was a very good, church-attending man. He just had not been a very good gardener in his marital relationship. The weeds finally overtook what little was left in the marriage relationship.

God has spoken in Scripture about helping us to weed the gardens He has given us.

Isaiah 58:11
The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.

Let us pray together.

Dear God, in prayer, please help us to lead with love in our actions with others, others who are gifts to us from You.

Please help us to recognize the clutter and the weeds in our relationships especially in marriage and family. In that recognition, please strengthen us to weed and remove the things which separate us from each other or worse kill the happiness, joy, and growth within ourselves and others.

God, we thank You for the garden in our hearts and in our lives. With Your help may we harvest the best in life and love for us and those You have sent our way. Amen

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God’s Love Is Our Cross to Bear – June 27, 2021

June 28, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

As Christians each of us was taught the story of Jesus carrying the Cross to Calvary. It was a burden. It was difficult. It was agonizing. It preceded horrific suffering and death for Him.

In that context, if you are like me, we think about carrying our own crosses. For me, it was and is polio. Paralysis. Grieving over the things I could not do after polio. Carry my kids and grandkids on my shoulders. Play golf, tennis, football or basketball. In my calling as a Collaborative Attorney, I witness husbands and wives and their kids carrying the cross of divorce.

There were three crosses at Calvary. For humankind the number of crosses we each bear are limitless. Cancer. Covid-19. The death of loved ones. Getting our hearts broken as we watch our kids and grandkids suffer loss, get into trouble, or make messes for themselves and others. Finally, having to give up on life-long dreams, just to name a few.

In a different context what Jesus carried was not just the cross. What He carried from the beginning until the very end of His life was His Father’s Love for Him and for us and our salvation.

God’s Love is our cross to bear too. To think about others more than ourselves. To sacrifice our own needs and comfort in compassion and service to others. To forgive others as we were and are forgiven by God. Because God’s Love was Christ’s Cross to bear as well as ours.

God has spoken in Scripture as to what carrying the Cross means to us.

Luke 9:23-25
Then He said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?

Let us pray together.

God, in prayer may we recognize that Your Love is our cross to bear.

May we each be strengthened to carry the burden of doing, saying, acting, living and loving others as You have loved us.

May we each know by faith that we will be rewarded in Your time in the manner we bear the cross of Your love for us. That we will be raised up on our last day on Earth just as Your Son, Jesus Christ, was lifted up into Your arms forever and ever in His sacrifice for all humankind. Amen

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.

Prayer for Fathers Who Are Fishers of Men and the Women They Love – June 20, 2021

June 20, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

Don’t we all have iconic photographs which have etched in our hearts the way we remember our fathers? The pictures capture not only the way our fathers looked on the outside to us. They also reflect through the prism of a moment frozen in time the true essence of the children God made who became men and fathers of us.

My father died in 2015. The best part of him dwells in the father I am. I will never wade fish in the Laguna Madre or Topolobampo, Mexico like him. Yet, I can be that same exemplary rock of faith, hope, love and care for my children and grandchildren as he was.

So, today I share with you this image of my dad, the fisherman who loved fishing more than anything else except me and my brothers and sister and, of course, my mother.

I learned more from Dad than just how to fish. Dad showed me something that all great dads do for their children. He showed me how to love Dorothy as my wife and mother of our children. How to reel in, capture, love, caress and care for the woman who day in and day out is responsible for the kids when I am not with them.

God has spoken in Scripture of our fathers.

Psalm 32:7-7
You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.

Proverbs 4:11-12
I will guide you in the way of wisdom and I will lead you in upright paths. When you walk, your steps will not be hampered, and when you run, you will not stumble.

Dear God, the Father of all creation,

Your Son was a fisher of men.

On this Father’s Day

I am proud to say

My father was a fisherman too.

He lived a life in service to You.

5,000 could have been fed

From the rod he cast over his head.

Yet, his greatest catch was his faith in You

And of Your love and what it can do.

God, please tell my dad I miss him so

And all the fishing trips we used to go.

Every son needs a father as him

Who wore sunglasses and a hat with a brim.

Thanks for my dad never being lost at sea

For sending him to Earth and a son like me. Amen.

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.

Prayer for Simplicity in Our Complex World – June 13, 2021

June 13, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

When I was a young student in middle school I and my classmates read Walden by Henry David Thoreau, the great American naturalist, essayist, poet, and philosopher. Like most young souls I did not have any idea about the complexities of adulthood. After all, my parents took care of everything. What could’ve been simpler than that?

At the University of Houston, my wonderful Sociology Professor, Sheila Sheinberg, caused me to revisit Thoreau. Sheila warned her students about how our gadgets and possessions would soon pose significant barriers to experiencing nature. To live the simple life. Further, as we owned more of them, we would have to work ever harder to pay for them. All the hours and days spent working to pay for them would represent time away from the beauty of the Earth God created for us to enjoy. That Sociology class was long before the Internet of Things, Facebook, Google, personal computers, the iPhone, and other electronic devices.

With age and technology I find myself, like you, a human cyborg of sorts navigating a more and more increasingly complex and overly stimulated existence. My wheelchair has become my legs. My ear pods have become my ears. My iPhone and Google have become my augmented brain. I have to work hard to be fully in the present and to strive for the simple living in natural surroundings which Thoreau set as an example for all of us.

I do not know if Professor Sheinberg is alive anymore or where she lives. But, her love of teaching the good and simple life remains in my heart and mind so many years later.

God has spoken to us in Scripture about simplicity and contentment.

1 Timothy 6:6-8
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.

Proverbs 11:28
Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.

Dear God, when I awaken tomorrow, may my heart be ever grateful for Your gift to me of another day on Earth.

God, with prayer every day please help me to look forward to seeing, hearing, feeling, and touching the beauty around me.

To hold a young child.

To embrace one I love.

To hear a bird’s song or the notes of a beautiful symphony.

To listen in the silence of prayer for the beat of angel wings around me.

To plan at least one simple, small thing to look forward to or accomplish this day.

God, in being more mindful and present each and every day may I see a glimpse of the joy, pleasure and peace that await me in Heaven with You. Amen

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.

Prayer to Feed the Best Wolf within Us – June 6, 2021

June 6, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

My wife, Dorothy, loves to watch murder mysteries on television. One of her favorites is Death in Paradise. After she watched Episode 6 of Season 6, Dorothy said to me, “You have to watch the scene in this show.”

While on a stakeout, in passing the time, Jack said to Humphrey “My grandfather told me a story once. About these two wolves fighting inside all of us. One of them was anger, envy, self-pity, regret. And the other one is love, truth, faith, hope. That sort of thing. I asked him which one of the wolves would win? You know what he said? He said, ‘Whichever one you feed’.”

The tale of the two wolves existed long before the screenplay was written for Death in Paradise. To me, the wolves represent the heavenly voice in each of us. And the earthly voice which speaks to all of us in our walks of faith. One part of us is self-centered. Focusing on the self. I am the most important. My needs come first. I have every right to express my anger. To blame others for what happens to me. To hold a grudge. I am never part of a problem I face. I know the solution to everything. I have the right, in all honesty, to share my opinion and judgment with and overlay my will on others.

Which wolf inside of you and me will win the race? Which voice will prevail? The one which reflects God’s love? Which speaks His truth? The one that brings us closer to God and one another? Or the one which takes us the wrong direction. The path of indifference, intolerance, and even hate. The self-righteous and judgmental which is really closer to Hell on Earth for us? The one in you who will win is the one you feed. The good and Godly one who receives from you food for the soul. Nourishment of the spirit.

What can you do to feed the good and Godly part of you? Go to church. Read scripture. Take a Bible class. Pray daily. Do acts of kindness for others. Volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen. Listen to or sing hymns. Seek your own way to nourish the best part of you who God created.

As to the heavenly voice in me, I use prayer and scripture every day to hear it. To deafen my ears from hearing the earthly, spiritless and dark voices which separate me from others and most importantly, God.

With Facebook, social media, NBC, CNN, FOX News, podcasts galore, being left, middle, right, liberal, conservative, Democratic, Republican or Independent we hear so much. With God’s help are you able to protect yourself from words or acts of hatred that feed the lesser, the bad wolf in you? In listening to certain dialogue or viewing certain online videos are you feeding the best wolf in you? Are you feeding the part of you which is love, gives love, and lives life closer to God and your neighbor?

God has spoken in scripture as to the importance of feeding the spirit in You and me.

Matthew 4:4
Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’”

Dear God, as Your children we have the need to hear Your word.
God, in prayer please help us to hear Your word. If we are not feeding our soul, we are feeding something else.

God, please help us to be ever mindful to feed the good and sacred part in us. For that is necessary for our spirits to grow and to magnify Your love on Earth. For our service to You to be acts of love, truth, faith, hope.

God, in the story the better wolf which is fed by us will live. In Your story of the birth, death, and resurrection of Your Son, Jesus Christ, our spirits which are fed by You will live and love forever. Amen
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Prayer for Memorial Day – May 31, 2021

May 31, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

Jack H. Emmott, Sr. – Machine Gun Instructor, U.S Army 1918

My Grandfather served in the First World War. He learned the skills to operate a machine gun at Camp Logan, what is now Memorial Park. Fortunately, he missed the train to Galveston to board the ship to fight on the Killing Fields of Europe. After missing the train, he came home to his mother, Catherine Mary Emmott. He cried to her about not being at the railroad station on time. Grandfather, “Paw Paw”, told me his entire unit died in battle. The average life expectancy of a machine gunner in battle was two minutes. Paw Paw was assigned to be a trainer in the School of Fire in Georgia. He taught brave soldiers the art by day and rode by horseback at night with Teddy Roosevelt’s nephew to fish on the Savannah River.

I treasure the WWI machine gun bullet box he gave me.

I have pride in his service to our country.

I am thankful for all the brave men and women who sacrificed their lives and who served to preserve our precious liberties.

Lord, May You please bless all Americans who have served or sacrificed their lives in the military to preserve and protect America from evil. In the giving of their lives we have received the gifts of peace, opportunity and freedom to learn, grow, earn and love. May Your angels illumine their paths with the light of Christ. May your unfailing love heal their wounds and comfort the hearts of family and friends left behind. Amen

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.

Prayer on Pentecost Sunday, for Peanut the Hamster, and to Help a Child to Grieve – May 23, 2021

May 30, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

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The opening hymn at today’s Pentecost Sunday church services at St. Francis Houston was “Come Spirit Come.”

As I was listening to the hymn on Facebook, Ellisa walked in the room and was crying. She was grieving over the death of her pet hamster, Peanut. I recalled yesterday’s vivid memory of Ellisa holding her dead hamster in her open hands, a death anointed with Ellisa’s tears of grief. What could I say or do to help her grieve? Grieving is something children of all ages experience whether age 7 or 99. What could Ellisa do to let go of her loss and move forward just a little bit happier today?

From my prior posts you know that Ellisa is very good at art. So, I asked her, “What do you think about drawing something to put next to Peanut’s grave? What about including a Cross like the one Jesus was crucified on which gave us and all His creatures eternal life with God?” Ellisa’s eyes lit up. She responded, “Yes. Yes. Yes.” A smile replaced the sadness on her face.

So, Ellisa found a small picture frame in one of our dresser drawers. She gathered some paper, scissors and fine-pointed ink pens and began to create a Memorial for Peanut. Ellisa wanted no help from me. She wanted to do everything by herself. Grieving was her problem to resolve, not mine.

Over the next half hour she drew a Cross, the outline of Peanut, added the colors God and Peanut would like best, cut out the drawing, and placed it in the frame. The photograph of the Memorial to Peanut is shown with this prayer. You may notice that all of the Cross is not visible and is hidden by the frame. But, some of the truest and most real things cannot be seen either. Like, the love of God or the spirit which dwelled in Peanut.

Next, Ellisa found a candle to shine on the framed Memorial. She walked out the back door and stood next to the grave. Solemnly she placed the framed picture and candle on the ground above where Peanut’s body laid. Ellisa created a piece of art. A work created by her grieving heart. A little bit of the loss she felt had been replaced with God’s love and Grace. Ellisa loved Peanut for a little time on Earth. Now, God will love Peanut forever.

God has spoken to us in Scripture about receiving the Holy Spirit, the power of the Holy Spirit in death, and grieving in times of loss.

Acts 2:33
Exalted to the right hand of God, he has received from the Father the promised Holy Spirit and has poured out what you now see and hear.

Romans 8:11
If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.

Let us pray together.

God, in prayer, please help us to assist children to deal with grief. For letting go of those they love, including pets, is one of life’s most important lessons.

God, in prayer, please open our eyes, ears, and hearts to see when a child is grieving. For we cannot know to do our part as Your messengers of love unless we are aware that the child is grieving.

God, in the hustle and bustle of life, please help us to take the time to be truly present when a child suffers a loss, even a loss such as Ellisa’s of a small pet that held a big place in her heart. God, in that moment of presence, please help us to find creative ways to have the child do a memorial or tribute to his or her pet, family member or friend who has died.

Last, God, as in the dark moment of Ellisa’s sadness this morning, or in church today on Pentecost Sunday, and in all times of grieving for children, young or old, may we all say and sing in our hearts together, “Come, Spirit Come.” Amen

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.

Prayers for Mothers Every Day – May 16, 2021

May 15, 2021 by Jack Emmott Leave a Comment

I enjoyed reading all of your Facebook posts about your mothers. So many of your posts touched my heart in the same memorable way my mother’s life and love touched mine.

This year I wanted to wait a week to post this prayer recalling what my Brother-in-Christ, Ivan Butterfield, said to me many years ago. His words survived his death from cancer several years ago. “Jack, if you want to do something special for one you love, do it on an ordinary day. People expect you to do something for them on their birthdays, anniversaries, and on Mother’s and Father’s Days. But, doing special things for others on ordinary days magnifies how much you truly care for them.”

Mom has been gone for 12 years. Yet, I think of her every day and especially on Mother’s Day. Mom is gone but not really gone. The lessons I learned from her rise from the ashes of her body of work for me as my mother.

From her, I learned there is no greater or more important thing a woman can do on Earth than bring a child into the world. From God’s cosmic womb and out of her own miraculous womb of love, a child of God was born.

Mom viewed me as a gift to her and Dad from God. I flourished under Mom’s nurturing. Then, polio struck when I was only six. Thereafter, when I felt different, she always treated me the same. Special.

When I felt ugly, disabled, and unlovable, Mom loved me as I was. As I was not anymore.

Mom never gave up on me. So, I never gave up on myself or my dreams.

Mom reminded me that if I was unconditionally accepted by God, why could I not accept the way I was after paralysis. In high school, Mom confidently said that God would send me a woman who could look beyond my deformities and disabilities and love me too. Like her. Like God. Like a future bride. The one named Dorothy God sent my way my Junior year in College.

Mom’s love could not undo the damage polio did to my body. But, like a good mother, she did all she could to give me the best chance for the best outcome with education, therapy, surgery, rehabilitation, and consistent love and care.

Every day, I apply this lesson from Mom in my calling as a Collaborative Divorce Attorney. I cannot undo the things that break up marriages. But, along with a team of other professionals, I can give divorcing couples the best chance for the best outcome in dissolving their marriage.

I can help divorcing parents show their kids how to say goodbye with civility, dignity, and love. A legacy. A message in a bottle. An example for them to follow if their marriages are irretrievably broken.

As a family law attorney over four decades, I have witnessed mothers who have sacrificed their biological children and given them up for adoption. Step-mothers adopting step-children who are treated and loved as biological children would be. Mothers who spend their entire lives caring for severely disabled children. Foster moms who temporarily care for kids and tearfully let them go to their new families. I have seen mothers courageously leave violent marriages so that their kids are raised in peaceable and safe homes. I have witnessed surrogate mothers carry children for nine months and then let them go so that couples will be childless no more. Surrogate mothers who don’t do this just for money but to bless childless couples with blessed children.

God has spoken to us in scripture about the blessings and qualities of mothers.

Proverbs 31:25:
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

Proverbs 31:26:
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

Proverbs 31:31:
Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Psalm 139:13-14:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

1 Peter 3:4:
You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

Let us pray.
Dear God, in prayer we thank You for our mothers. In them, we saw Your Face for the very first time.

God, please help us to remember, honor, and praise our mothers on ordinary days for being so special to us every day in our lives.

God, help us to apply the lessons we learned from our mothers in how we treat others and our own kids and grandkids. In doing so our mother’s love lives on in us and You, our God, dwell in the hearts of generations and generations of children everywhere. Amen.

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Jack H. Emmott is a Senior Counsel of Gray, Reed & McGraw, LLP, a 145-lawyer full-service firm in Houston, Dallas, and Waco, Texas, a Board-Certified Family Law and Master Credentialed Collaborative Law Professional Divorce Attorney, Mediator, Author, Entrepreneur and Inspirational Speaker. For more information about Jack or his latest book, Bending Angels: Living Messengers of God’s Love, go to the Bending Angel website.